Kindness toward others is always welcome, but setting boundaries should also be a priority for the sake of our well-being. Our boundary is the line separating our responsibilities from others. Since we all have our own versions, we should learn how to define and communicate it to others, even if it's scary and overwhelming. Whether within yourself, with your family, friends, co-workers, strangers, or society, set your boundaries (or break them!) with the help of our collection of boundaries quotes below.
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Boundaries are a conceptual threshold between ourselves and others. It comes down to recognizing where we stop and others start. A healthy boundary is simply being responsible for our actions and emotions while letting others be responsible for their own. Being a strict gatekeeper of our life invites respect and understanding and prevents trespassing uncomfortable people and situations.
But let's remember it is not about building impenetrable walls but instead creating fences that protect our mental health and overall well-being.
To kick off this section, we have two quotes from American clinical psychologist Dr. Henry Cloud, who wrote Boundaries: When to Say Yes, How to Say No to Take Control of Your Life (here on Amazon), which was followed by six more books focusing on relationships and leadership. Dr. Cloud's books have taught millions about boundaries since 1992.
As you read the boundaries quotes below, be mindful of your fences and others as well.
"Boundaries define us. They define what is me and what is not me. A boundary shows me where I end and someone else begins, leading me to a sense of ownership. Knowing what I am to own and take responsibility for gives me freedom."
"You get what you tolerate."
"Healthy boundaries are not walls. They are gates and fences that allow you to enjoy the beauty of your own garden."
"Walls keep everybody out. Boundaries teach them where the door is."
"Lack of boundaries invites lack of respect."
"The only people who get upset about you setting boundaries are the ones who were benefiting from you having none."
"Boundaries are, in simple terms, the recognition of personal space."
"Families living in dysfunction seldom have healthy boundaries. Dysfunctional families have trouble knowing where they stop and others begin."
Even if we already know our boundaries, implementing it can be an uphill battle, particularly when it comes to overcoming the fear of rejection or conflict. The process often requires a delicate balance of assertiveness and diplomacy. Many people also feel guilty for prioritizing their own needs, believing it makes them selfish. However, we must remember that establishing limits is not about controlling others or picking fights; it's about advocating for our own well-being.
The first two quotes of this section are from American professor Casandra Brené Brown known for her research on shame and vulnerability. Her inspirational quotes about boundaries from her New York Times Best Seller, The Gifts of Imperfection (here on Amazon), perfectly summarize the challenges of putting limits and the consequence of failing to do so.
Embracing the right mindset toward setting boundaries can make it less daunting and help you confidently approach it. So overcome your fears and be an advocate of yourself as you check the boundaries quotes below.
"When we fail to set boundaries and hold people accountable, we feel used and mistreated."
"Daring to set boundaries is about having the courage to love ourselves, even when we risk disappointing others."
"Emotional self-defense… When you set healthier relationship standards in your life, some people will take it personally. That's their issue, not yours. The distance isn't against them; it's for you. It's a boundary, not a grudge."
"Boundary setting helps you prioritize your needs over other people's wants."
"If you spend your life sparing people's feelings and feeding their vanity, you get so you can't distinguish what should be respected in them."
"If you want to live an authentic, meaningful life, you need to master the art of disappointing and upsetting others, hurting feelings, and living with the reality that some people just won't like you. It may not be easy, but it's essential if you want your life to reflect your deepest desires, values, and needs."
Having boundaries is not only about being clear about what you want and your non-negotiables. Establishing it is also about practicing self-love in order to increase self-esteem and even heal from past traumas.
When you know your worth, it is easier to spot violations against your personal boundaries. For example, people who often avoid conflict or please people overstep their or the other's boundaries. And if you feel discomfort, even in a humorous setting, don't believe people when they say you're being sensitive.
Let these boundaries quotes remind you to always love yourself by asserting your limits. Afterward, visit our know your worth quotes for more affirmations for self-love. Or check out our list of morning affirmations to give yourself a little encouragement to start the day.
"Love yourself enough to set boundaries. Your time and energy are precious and you get to decide how you use them. You teach people how to treat you by deciding what you will and won't accept."
"We can trust ourselves to know when our boundaries are being violated."
"Boundaries are a part of self-care. They are healthy, normal and necessary."
"Each time you set a healthy boundary, you say ‘yes' to more freedom."
"Boundaries are to protect life, not to limit pleasures."
"Givers need to set limits because takers rarely do."
"Your personal boundaries protect the inner core of your identity and your right to choices."
Now we know its importance, what actions should we take? We can search for situations where we might overextend ourselves or let people take advantage of us by engaging in self-reflection. As we familiarize ourselves with our own needs, we become more empowered to make decisions aligning with our core values.
Aside from saying no when we feel unsafe, we should also express our needs calmly and openly, using "I" statements to describe how certain behaviors affect us. For instance, we can say, "I feel overwhelmed when you constantly ask for my help without considering my workload," rather than, "You always dump your work on me." This approach makes us more likely to be heard and understood, facilitating a smoother boundary-setting process.
Let's create a safe space for ourselves and others through mindfulness and respect and by living the messages from the boundaries quotes below.
"When you say 'yes' to others, make sure you're not saying 'no' to yourself."
"Being able to say 'no' is a necessary ingredient in a healthy lifestyle."
"Do not justify, apologize for, or rationalize the healthy boundary you are setting. Do not argue. Just set the boundary calmly, firmly, clearly, and respectfully."
"No is a complete sentence."
"You best teach others about healthy boundaries by enforcing yours."
"Setting emotional boundaries prevent people from manipulating you, using you, and playing with your feelings."
"Speak in your own voice about the things that matter to you."
"I set boundaries not to offend you but to respect myself."
Boundaries help us define our identities and needs, allowing us to create a sense of self-respect and autonomy. By valuing our partner, family, and friends' boundaries, we show them that we value their feelings, needs, and individuality. It breeds respect and acceptance. Therefore, it strengthens fulfilling relationships that can stand the test of time.
Moreover, respecting boundaries does not mean blindly conforming to others' wishes; it is about engaging in open, honest communication and finding a balance for everyone involved. Examples of ideal boundaries look like this:
Initiate cultivating healthier boundaries among the people around you by communicating and listening. And let these boundaries quotes guide you while you are defining your limits
"The hardest part about setting boundaries with people, no matter who they are, is not feeling confident in our authority to do so. As long as you realize that setting boundaries is necessary for healthy relationships, you will feel better defining and keeping them."
"Just as we expect others to value our boundaries, it's equally important for us to respect the boundaries of others."
"Healthy boundaries are important, but you may be building a brick wall when a picket fence would do."
"Setting boundaries in a relationship implies your attempt to continue the relationship in a healthy way. It's not an attempt to hurt the other person."
"Much of the time, the things we feel guilty about are not our issues. Another person behaves inappropriately or in some way violates our boundaries. We challenge the behavior, and the person gets angry and defensive. Then we feel guilty."
Aside from the people surrounding us, setting boundaries within ourselves is also paramount not only for our mental health but also for our personal growth. In pursuit of our goals, we encounter obstacles and temptations that could threaten or challenge our boundaries. When that time comes, we must decide to defend or redefine it.
For example, when we believe in honesty and have a chance to lie to get a promotion, we defend our boundaries by sticking to our values. But, on the other side, when we meet a business opportunity outside of our comfort zone, we carefully reconsider it since it could benefit our long-term goals.
To start, we have a boundary quote from the "Oracle of Omaha" and reputable investor Warren Buffet that reminds us to set barriers while running toward success. Other boundaries quotes below also point out to push our limits. So, continue reading, make wise decisions, and take action until you achieve growth and victory!
"The difference between successful people and really successful people is that really successful people say ‘No' to almost everything."
"The biggest competition is myself. I am not looking to follow others or pull them down. I'm planning to test my own boundaries."
"Never set limits, go after your dreams, don't be afraid to push the boundaries. And laugh a lot - it's good for you!"
"Boundaries protect the things that are of value to you. They keep you in alignment with what you have decided you want in life. That means the key to good boundaries is knowing what you want."
"My motto in life is 'Take risks;' you don't have a voice if you don't. You have to venture outside your boundaries. That's what life's all about."
"Nobody knows what you have in you until you've done it, so I just keep pushing those boundaries, and I figure it will all come out in the wash."
"I think it's really important to always kind of stretch your boundaries and your limits and get out of your comfort zone. And for me, that's very important."
Now let's discuss breaking boundaries! The world will never be where it is today when people of the past always stick to traditions and norms. Throughout history, women have faced numerous barriers and societal expectations. Still, they have consistently demonstrated their resilience and determination to break through these boundaries.
Countless women trailblazers shattered all sorts of barriers throughout history, like renowned physicist Marie Curie, the first female to win a Nobel Prize. Next, Pakistani activist Malala Yousafzai also shook the world by bravely fighting for girls' education rights as young as 11 years old.
In addition, this section includes a quote from a modern female inspiration, Rihanna, who empowers women through her music and cosmetic brand, Fenty Beauty. But you don't have to do these grand achievements. Instead, focus on breaking your barriers to motivate the girls and ladies closest to you.
Embrace your womanhood and let these inspirational boundaries quotes push you to challenge the status quo, ignite passions, and, ultimately, redefine the meaning of success on your terms.
"Women feel empowered when they can do the things that are supposed to be only for men, you know? It breaks boundaries, it's liberating, and it's empowering when you feel like, 'Well, I can do that, too.'"
"Because you are women, people will force their thinking on you, their boundaries on you. They will tell you how to dress, how to behave, who you can meet and where you can go. Don't live in the shadows of people's judgement. Make your own choices in the light of your own wisdom."
"Every woman that finally figured out her worth has picked up her suitcases of pride and boarded a flight to freedom, which landed in the valley of change."
"I'm trying as hard as I can to keep pushing the boundaries of what a woman is capable of doing. And it turns out there's a lot we can do. There's a lot we can speak about."
Aside from women, the colorful genders, races, and forms of beauty also face stereotypes, discrimination, and many other societal boundaries.
Compared to a hundred years ago, we have already progressed in embracing the full spectrum of human diversity. For instance, 34 countries have already legalized same-sex marriage.
Another momentous moment was when Martin Luther King Jr's speeches and nonviolent strategies led to the Civil Rights Act of 1964. The act aimed to guarantee equality regardless of race or religion. More recently, companies broke barriers to beauty standards through powerful campaigns such as Dove's #MyBeautyMySay in 2016.
But conquering all the barriers of society is still a work in progress. So let's continue to move forward to a more accepting world with the help of the boundaries quotes below. Or, for related reading, you might like our selection of equality and diversity quotes.
"Love, like poems, knows no boundaries. Religions, race, distance not even age can restrict someone from falling in love."
"The idea that humanity is divided into these separate and distinct and disparate groups with clear boundaries has been disproven by science a long time ago, decades ago. Humanity really is more of a continuum, and that people belong on the same continuum and there are no clear breaks between these so-called races."
"Beauty has no boundaries, no rules, no colors. Beauty is like a religion. You can include everything inside it."
"In my opinion, love is not about gender, it's not about religion. Love has no borders and no boundaries."
"Like music and art, love of nature is a common language that can transcend political or social boundaries."
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